The following was sent to us by Tony. We believe it has value as many are walking or have walked a similar journey
By Tony DePhillips
Decompression: 1. In general, the removal of pressure.
I’m about 4-5 years into my decompression from corporate Scientology. It has been a somewhat painful experience but very beneficial too. Here are some tips that have been helpful to me. Hopefully they might be helpful to someone else. This article is aimed at people who have been involved in Scientology.
- Stay true to your stable datum unless you talk to someone who you consider rational and you decide to let go of it yourself.
- Find a reliable source to discuss your beliefs.
I went through a lot of trial and error on this one. Part of the problem is that in corporate Scientology you aren’t really allowed to fully examine and think for yourself about the parts of Scientology. When you get out of that environment the flood gates really bust open and you are deluged with opinions. Not to generalize too much, but I felt it was helpful to categorize the options for help.
- a) Blogs. Blogs have been a great source of information & camaraderie for me. I can recall when I first came out I could hardly pull myself away from my computer. I quickly found out that some have value but some can become a blood bath of evaluation and invalidation. I still do feel that a lot of the suppressive personality tech has some workability here. It does no real good to get into long arguments with people about whether this or that is true if they are doing it in a hostile manner. I recommend not getting into it.
- b) One on one with individuals that you respect. I have found this to be one of the best methods.
- c) Auditing. I find auditing itself is a great way to analyze things and come to your own conclusions. Again here you have to find someone you trust. Ask around and do some research.
- d) Reading books on different subjects can be helpful.
- e) Make a list of ideas that you have gotten from Scientology and re-analyze them:
- What is OT? Is this really possible?
- Does auditing work?
- Is there a reactive mind?
- Are people basically good?
- Does the ARC triangle have any workability?
- Are all psychologists evil?
- Does it make sense to shun or disconnect from people if they are hostile to you? Just disagree with you? Don’t like your beliefs? Discuss these ideas with people you consider rational and decide for yourself.
There are many more. Focus on the ones that are important to you.
- Beware of Scientology haters.
I define a hater who sees no real value in Scientology tech and actively tries to prevent others from using it. As differentiated from people who are seeking to stop the abuses of corporate Scientology.
These can be found just about anywhere but abound on blogs. Haters can be divided into three main groups.
- People who have never been in.
- Ex Scientologists
- Ex Sea Org members.
I feel the category that deserves special mention are ex Sea Org members because for most public & staff, Sea Org members were Opinion Leaders & were the ones we would turn to for advice & guidance. Some (this is an emphasis on some, not all) ex Sea Org members now seek to belittle everything about the Scientology philosophy and try to make nothing out of it.
Sea Org members were living in very hostile environment and a lot of them got very little sleep and were manipulated, something like a concentration camp or re-education camp.
Some of them were involved in suppressive actions while in and haven’t taken responsibility for those actions committed while under heavy duress.
This makes this category more bitter having had the brunt of the bad treatment within corporate Scientology.
In addition, the tech many of them got was corrupted or not even utilized and/or delivered under duress.
After spending many years of their lives inside and then having the courage to leave, they have now deemed all of it bad. This is understandable. These now dedicated haters of the philosophy are now hell bent on convincing others that their wins and knowledge that they found helpful are now worthless and should be rejected totally.
They had altitude when they were in and you have to make sure you don’t continue granting that to them, now that they have become haters.
Just evaluate the things you got from Scientology and decide for yourself.
Don’t let another person decide for you. If you re-evaluate it and hate it all, then so be it. It is your life. I think it is best for you to make your own decisions.
I’m not talking about ex Sea Org members who don’t want any part of Scientology for themselves. They have the right to decide that. I am talking about the ones who are actively trying to convince one and all that it is all bad and to stay away from the subject all together (as opposed to staying away from Corporate Scientology). I say this being as objective as I can be. There are many ex Sea Org members that are very nice and still grant beingness to others and demonstrate many stellar attributes.
There are many arguments that the haters like to use:
- LRH was a bad guy.
- LRH stole all of it from others.
- Scientology tech is hypnotic.
- Look at what the organization has done. The tech couldn’t be any good if the group went so crazy.
- Scientology isn’t integrated and isn’t scientific enough so therefore should be rejected.
These seem to be the main arguments I hear. Here are some of my opinions about those points.
LRH was a bad guy:
LRH very well may have been a bad guy. Let’s say that he was an ogre just for the sake of brevity. If his tech still works to one degree or another is that a reason to throw it all out? Let us say that some Man invented a cure for some disease and it was later found out that he had murdered his wife. Would that be a reason to throw away the vaccine? I don’t think so.
LRH stole all of it from others:
Again, let’s say that LRH stole every bit of the tech from other sources and gave no credit to anyone for their contributions. I would say that this is wrong. I don’t really want to research this as a life time project to determine to what extent this was or wasn’t the case. The point again is, does any of it have any workability to me? I find the answer to that to be YES!
Decide for yourself.
In addition, I give him credit for minimally collecting a lot of this knowledge & putting it in a format for people to understand & use in life.
Some people argue that you could have gotten the same benefit that you got from Scientology from other subjects. This may or may not be true. Only investigation would bear this out.
Scientology tech is hypnotic
Hypnosis :The induction of a state of consciousness in which a person apparently loses the power of voluntary action and is highly responsive to suggestion or direction.
Many public Scientologists (myself included) have for many years fit the above definition of hypnosis. This to me doesn’t mean that the auditing tech created that state of mind. For me, part of the reason I kept my blinders on was because of the successes I had and because of the goals of improving society which I feel desperately needs improvement. There are many people who have believed in an organization’s purpose and have had success within it and subsequently ignored or blindly continued in a group that was guilty of wrong doings. I think that labeling the auditing tech as guilty of hypnotizing people is misleading. This again is a subject that each person can decide for themselves.
If you consider people believing things without inspection to be hypnosis then I am afraid the whole planet is to some degree hypnotized, which may have some degree of truth.
I think a person has the right to believe anything he wants as long as he isn’t hurting anyone.
Many people believe in God and Jesus or Allah or Heaven and I am sure some would think that these people were hypnotized into believing this.
Many mothers and fathers and teachers get their children/students to agree to things that their pupil hasn’t really evaluated for themselves. As people grow they can rethink these things and decide for themselves. As an adult you may decide that it is okay to have your dessert first and skip your veggies.
There are probably many techniques to get someone to lose his power of voluntary action and have his behavior modified. I think the closest that corporate Scientology came to this was the Sea Org with it’s militaristic organization pattern and harsh living environment. Sleep deprivation, food deprivation, continual state of being threatened with ejection into a hard labor camp called the RPF.
The Sea Org members were subjected to much more duress into behavior modification than the public consumers of Scientology. Myself as having been a public consumer of the Scientology philosophy have never felt I was placed in that state of heavy duress with the exception of being under duress during some very bad security checks (confessional interrogations) I received from corporate Scientology. This was duress. I don’t recommend doing any Scientology services (or anything else for that matter) while under duress from anyone.
I think it is a good idea to evaluate information and ideas and to do so without duress. I do agree that in corporate Scientology as well as many other organizations you are fed data and discouraged from sometimes evaluating it freely.
In Scientology if you disagree with certain things you are checked for misunderstood words, false data and even overts (sins) sometimes to get you to fall into line. I guess this could be considered some type of “hypnotism” or “re-education”. My suggestion is to gradually review some of the things that you got from Scientology and look to see in a new unit of time if you believe that idea.
For example I still believe in the ARC triangle. I see that it has workability, I strongly doubt that idea is a hypnotic command.
The idea of past lives is also a belief that I have. I can’t prove it. I have re-evaluated it for myself many times and still feel good about it.
On the other hand, the idea that a person leaving the Sea Org is a degraded being is not real to me. I received information of this from an article LRH wrote and I still don’t believe it.
If you have evaluated data and someone still says you are brainwashed or hypnotized, don‘t get introverted by them. They are probably trying to forward their own agenda.
If you’re happy and successful that’s great. Your beliefs are your own, some things may have slipped in there without you checking them out. Review some of these things until you feel good about your data base. Don’t let someone else try to convince you that you have been hypnotized.
Look at what the organization has done. The tech couldn’t be any good if the group went so crazy
This one is interesting. A good case can be made against corporate Scientology for being a disgraceful group. Sea Org members used and abused, excessive greed, coerced abortions in the Sea Org, ripping the public off for “Ideal Orgs” going nowhere, disconnection tearing up families and the list goes on.
It is a good argument to say that if the tech really worked then surely all of this wouldn’t have happened. In my mind, I break it down like this; the organizational system was an epic FAIL. This to me doesn’t mean that the center-piece of the organization, the auditing technology, was also a failure. If you look at Scientology consumers, there is a decent amount of people who say they have had good or great wins from using some of the tech. There are also many who haven’t liked any of it. This is where I say: “Try it on a gradient if you are interested and see if you like it” or “continue doing it if you enjoy it”. If you run into a point where you don’t like it then just stop there and move onto something else.
Another analogy for this one would be to look at the Catholic Church. They have quite a violent history filled with outright murder. Even corporate Scientology hasn’t got this bad at least not to the degree the Catholics are guilty of. Yet, there are still many happy and practicing Catholics. The Catholic Church is still alive after having rehabilitated itself to a large extent. This too could happen to corporate Scientology.
Funny enough, I don’t consider myself a Scientologist anymore. People are probably getting sick of me saying it. The only reason I bring it up here is that even though I don’t believe in the overall game of Scientology such as OT or handling the whole universe and all that, I do feel that many parts of it are extremely workable. I also feel that it can be used to bring people to higher states of awareness.
It is some of the best tech that I know of for doing so.
I don’t agree with all of it and I haven’t evaluated all of it yet either. I like to apply “If it’s true for you then it’s true.” (at least for you) Currently I have had probably enough to last me for quite some time. I am just enjoying life now.
I find there are many contradictions in the Scientology philosophy. I feel for most people there is a backlog of un-evaluated data and that takes time to sort out.
Scientology isn’t integrated and isn’t scientific enough so therefore should be rejected
Integrate: combine (one thing) with another so that they become a whole.
I do like the idea of integrating Scientology. I think it’s a good idea for people who use Scientology to read other authors and get other points of view. I think the Scientology philosophy has much to offer other fields of endeavor. I think other fields of endeavor could improve the Scientology philosophy too.
Some seem to say that scientific methodology should be applied to the tech and if it doesn’t stand up then it should be banned or outlawed.
I like the idea of science being applied to the Scientology philosophy. The problem with this is that to some degree I feel that the field of the spirit is senior to science. Science always wants proof, usually physical.
A scientist who is spiritually aware would have a better time evaluating spiritual data in my opinion.
It seems to me that spirituality, love, personal gain and security are subjective and shouldn’t be the subject of “proof” as the only requisite in order to be utilized.
If a person feels good after auditing why should someone else try to make less of it? If a person is upset and experiences relief after some auditing, why should someone try to negate that?
Prayer helps a lot of people. I don’t think it should be attacked. Same thing with meditation.
I really can’t list all of the good things that I got from Scientology. It totally changed my life for the better. I don’t have to prove that to anyone.
I left corporate Scientology for the reason that I could no longer ignore the out points and suppression that I saw coming from that group.
I made Scientology my life purpose. I left and have never looked back. It was the right decision.
As a person who loves truth and have tried to live with the truth, I cannot stand back and lie and say I got nothing from Scientology and that it was all worthless.
I feel for all the people who have left that group after years of dedicated service and purpose. I understand the pain people have experienced and really feel for those who got hurt. Still in all conscience, I cannot agree to the lie that there is nothing good within the philosophy of Scientology.
Good luck to all of you in your search for truth and peace of mind.
I hope this doesn’t come across as too serious. I am a fun loving guy but this subject is very near and dear to me.